A lot of people think that a parent who smokes weed is a horrible parent, but I beg to differ... I am discreet, I wouldn't smoke in front of them. The couple of times my daughter has smelled it, I told her it was hookah. Lol. I make some awesome dinners and snacks for them when im high because I get better ideas of different food to make... it also gives me more patience when I wanna feed them to cannibals.

What are your thoughts? Is it bad to smoke and be a parent? Would you be honest with your kid? What's the proper age for them to know? Would you allow them to smoke when they hit a certain age?

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Tue, 09/25/2012 - 11:26am


Sun, 09/18/2011 - 10:26am
Beavis Says:

When I become a dad, I will blaze with my kids, and it will be awesome.

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 3:53am
Klammydia Says:

Seriously man, it's sounds cool now but for the sake of your kid please don't

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 11:57pm

for the sake of his kid? It would be better he do it with them or they might do it with there friends and try other stuff lol. then he knows hes smoking 100% all natural and not something terrible like K3 or some shit. it will also teach him to only smoke weed and not something like crack or do pills when him and his friends dont have the option of weed. u should look up the jamakan baby tests its on the health differences with babys whos mom smoked or dident smoke while pregnant and the health benefits favor the babys with heavy smoking moms.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 11:44am
yurtpoh Says:

smoking anything is probably not good for a fetus... and parents arent meant to be "cool" they're supposed to discipline you... i know it sucks, but i just recently came to that realization myself... if you want to smoke with another stoner, make some friends... my mom told me when i was young that weed isnt really that bad, that she used to do it, and that she even did coke and other things in college, but she never once smoked with me... i love my mom to death, and im glad she didnt, shes a mother, not a stoner buddy

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 1:30pm
yurtpoh Says:

idk why this got downvoted, as I'm speaking from experience.. I suppose you can go ahead and tell me I'm full of shit, I wont be able to convince a stubborn close minded person.. no matter how badass smoking weed feels, it can still cause laryngitis (ive had it), pleuritis (ive had it), and other lung diseases (but not cancer)... and if parents smoke with children your just promoting it, if you tell them about stories, i feel its more neutral, and less influential on the kid.. the kid is a human too, he deserves the choice, what if he really truly doesnt want to smoke???? (id assume itd be rare but i wouldnt dispose of the idea) and im not saying mothers have to quit, im never actually sure if my mom quit lol, but she can never actually be blamed nor blame herself for me getting a psychological addiction (if i were to ever get one) nor going into harder drugs (if i ever did)

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 7:56pm
Klammydia Says:

I used to smoke with my step dad but it made things to tense most of the time. You can't let it he a part of a child-parent relationship, it creates a lot of issues. If you're so concerned with them smoking other things, set some guidelines with em when they're old enough to know anout it and make it okay to smoke dope but nothing else.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 9:19pm

I dont want this to be popular. >.<

It wouldn't let me edit the HighDEA, but here is the edited one.

A lot of people think that a parent who smokes weed is a horrible parent, but I beg to differ... I am discreet, I wouldn't smoke in front of them. I make some awesome dinners and snacks for them when I'm high because I get better ideas of different food to make... it also gives me more patience when I want to feed them to cannibals. By expanding my consciousness, I expand theirs.

It is funny to reflect on your old self. Just seeing how far I have progressed from these thoughts. I wasn't really looking for answers. I don't believe there is one RIGHT answer to anything. I just like to see others opinions. I removed the questions. =)

I would never smoke weed with my children. I don't judge those that want to. . I want them to create their own ways in life. I don't need to influence them. It is part of the reason I quit smoking cigarettes and I only drink on rare occasions and never in front of them. They have enough influences in their lives. I want to help them figure out how to make conscious, informed decisions in life. I want them to see me happy in sobriety, so they can know that you can be happy in sobriety. I am also discrete b/c I am a parent and it is illegal [though I live in Ca. and have a rec, but I mean, how far does a piece of paper get you?]. No need to put that weight on their shoulders. They are just children.

Wed, 09/26/2012 - 1:27am
yurtpoh Says:

well you sound like an amazing mother in my opinion :)

Wed, 09/26/2012 - 3:09am
Fri, 06/29/2012 - 9:44pm

So glad I ran into you! :)
You're an awesome parent, first and foremost.

I think you should be straight up blunt truthful to your kids, it's better than know at a younger age and grow up with the mentality (without judgement, because kids aren't judgemental you know? But it doesn't seem like that nowadays) that weed is harmless for the most part and a needed medicine for society.
What if someone else told your kids about weed? For example.. like in school?
You are your kid's most influential teacher.
It's not bad to smoke and be a parent at all!
I'm only a kid but hey, when I smoke I noticed that I've been more interactive and caring when I'm around my parents, my cousins or any sort of family.
I feel more connected to them, more motivated. It's beautiful!
Proper age for them to know is when they're asking.
If they ask, that means they are ready to know.

I would definitely allow them to smoke around the age of 14 or older (since that's around the age I started).

High minds are great minds!

Sun, 07/29/2012 - 11:42pm

Thank you for this!! I try to be a great mother. I actually don't like hiding it from them, but because of the law I have to. Because I don't need the state trying to have any reason to take them. It is also a reason I stay anonymous on these types of sites. >.<

I'm in school for court reporting. Its such a conflicting life that I have. lol.

This is MY reality though so it can be whatever I want it to be.

I will not keep my kids shielded from it. They already know about it and the purposes for it. Like you said, when they ask, they are ready to know. So I will wait for that day to really let them know.

I don't teach them about religions yet, because I want them to be old enough to learn for themselves. I am teaching them conscious thinking though.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 1:53am
E.Scooby Says:

Depending on the age, I would tell them to wait a couple more years to ask again. At most I'd tell them it's nothing bad, or anything to worry about. The childhood years are meant for them to build happy memories. And I know they wouldn't remember them if they start smoking at a young age. Not to mention it's when the mind is developing. And I wouldn't want to put the burden on them to have to worry about making that choice when they get older. Some things are meant to be taught at certain times in life. Just don't be like most parents and lie about how bad it is.

As for people telling your child what they think about pot, your child will usually ask you afterwards, it's like reassurance that what they have been told is true. Sadly, sometimes it's not.

Those are just my thoughts.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 9:26pm

We share the same thoughts my friend.

I want my girls to see that happiness exists in sobriety.

Sun, 07/15/2012 - 4:20pm

don't start too early you don't want them to not have fully developed minds

Wed, 09/26/2012 - 5:31pm
Mon, 09/24/2012 - 9:37pm
AdamOest Says:

it is most beneficial to wait until they are 18 years of age when the mind and body are for the most part finished developing, however I realize that that's not fully realistic in most situations. if they start on their own or start asking questions that is the point to talk with them.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:18am
Drich878 Says:

18? I was gonna say the same thing but 20

Mon, 09/24/2012 - 11:56pm

I was 16 when i started smoking.I think it would be cool if I were your kid to have the option at least.Not all parents support it,especially mine-_-

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:28am

Definitely not going to be as hypocritical and tyrannic as my parents are about it.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:34am

Would you drink a beer in front of them? or let them witness or even smell someone smoking a ciggerette? (even though thats inevitable), i think not only bud, but many mature things should be brought to kids attentions at an early age, not to early i guess but earlier then they think, were at our smartest then! so why not teach us!! all im sayin is that if you make it like something your ashamed of, or need to hide or make it seem like a problem there going to look at you, and marijuana as something shameful or bad, which its not at all, i think its the best thing on the planet, marijuana and hemp are gods gifts know matter who or what your god is man, its good for everything from material to medicine, (even if your not using it for medicine i think we can all admit we really just wanna get high) but it relieves us, alot better then the other stuff out there, lets count man! so far you can purchase Bath Salt (at any age!!! maybe not...never even looked at the stuff so im not sure), alcohol which doesnt need ANY explaining!! its obviously terrible, ciggerettes which is the most deceiving and dangourous thing we put on the shelves, theres "spice" which is so fuckin bad for you!!! i dont see how this shit is even being legally sold

i smoke weed with my father, im 18 we first smoked together when i was about...14? 15? and maybe these werent his intentions, or he was "bad" whatever man, smoking in my own home was alot safer then smoking in the streets where i get caught smoking by a cop, and now they gotta pay the ticket, was it worth making ME hide it like YOU used to? you dont gotta smoke with him its uncomforatable but dont break his balls! and honestly im glad i smoke with my dad, talk about bonding man, not only as father son, but as 2 friends, connecting on a real level, and if you can get your kid to be honest with you about week, they'll probably be honest with SO much more then just weed, i notice alot of my friends have family problems and dislike there parents, i LOVE my parents because i can be open with them and ive smoked weed with them. not everyones the same, this is just my experience another thing to remember!!!!!!!!!

When you smoke with you kid, expect to smoke for two until he gets a job, or finds another way to get weed, he will smoke all your bud with you to the last bowl, he might pinch your weed, and dont think that 20 dollar alowance is going somewhere special, hes buying weed, and you might eventually be the guy that sells him super cheap deals because he's your "kid" and he "deserves that hook up", its all bullshit, but its all extremely likely, so be careful! be safe!! BE DISCREET! remember its illegal, and you dont wanna become "cool dad" who smokes all his friends out =p

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:35am
Tue, 09/25/2012 - 5:14am

I'm 22 and have been smoking for a few years now but only first tried it when I was 17 - when I found out my moms been smoking pot since before I was born! The only thing is, my parents raised me very conservatively and had me believe it was a very BAD thing to do... I was upset at my mom at first but after trying it, my mind was opened... if she would have just been honest with me about the facts of drugs and let me form my own opinion I wouldn't have this already preset idea in my head. Now I've done my research and know that marijuana is the only drug I should ever mess with but I wish I wasn't so sheltered - I found out the truth about life so late!

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 10:23am

and all this time I thought I was the only one!! I'm a mom of a 2 year old and I'm a daily smoker. both my fiancée and I smoke. we don't ever smoke in the house or near the baby. I don't think anyone that's not a parent should have a negative comments about smoker parents. its just nice after a long day of stressful work and yelling running toddlers, to be able to light a fat one and just wind down
why should we be ashamed of smoking when we have kids? are you ashamed of smoking now? I think its time for a new breed of proud stoner parents to stand up and show the world that there's nothing wrong with the things we do. plus I love being stoned around my daughter because she does and says the funniest things ever like she knows that we smoked and wants us to enjoy our high. id rather be the first person to give my daughter a joint then.one of her friends any day!!

stoner parents, Im smoking this one for you!

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 12:49pm
Hux Says:

Awesome. I sometimes will smoke a bit of pot and play with me daughter. I wouldn't smoke with her (never mind the fact that she's 4). I find when In play with her toys it brings me back to when I was a kid. My imagination runs wild and its amazing to share that with her. Were just 2 kids playing with a room filled with toys. Oh and we make mind blowing forts.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 1:05pm
cookiemama Says:

Stoner parent, me? Yes. And I plan to be upfront with my children about it when they're a little bit older (like, speaking full sentences). I hope they'll catch me smoking or ask me first, but, if not, it's a convo I won't mind starting. Granted, I'm in the process of getting my green card, which will make it a lot easier to explain.
But, way I see it is this: I'd rather see my kids smoke pot than binge drink. I'd rather tell them I smoke weed than drink-to-get-drunk. I want to see my children's generation legalize, for the oh-so-many reasons that that would be good. Hell, if my kids inherit my immune disorder and/or their father's clinical depression, weed could be their miracle medicine. I won't tell them weed is bad, it isn't. I'm not ashamed, and want to teach them the truth of the world, and what is and isn't, like all parents should. I'd rather waste my warnings on something more important. Kids will only listen so much... I'd rather tell mine to leave alone hard drugs. No powders, needles, crystals, or pills, thanks. I don't plan to smoke with my kids, I don't think. We'll see. But, everyone else has brought up some decent points, and I just don't think it would be good, mother-to-child, for our relationship. Maybe once they're grown and out of the house. Who knows. But my final point is this: smoking weed allows me to be a capable mom. I couldn't run around and play at the park otherwise due to my crazy bad joints, and my anxiety, depression, and other ptsd symptoms would be rampant. I wouldn't have the same patience, tolerance, and focus with my children if I didn't smoke. It helps me cope with my frequent bouts of super sick, and my immune system mistakenly eating my bones and whatever it decides is the organ du jour. I'm not going to lie to my children about that.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 3:29pm

I'm a 23 year old, stay at home dad with three kids. I fell and broke my back 4 years ago, and haven't worked since. I finally got legal, and I think its a parents responsibility to explain things to their kids. They will not be allowed to smoke cannabis until they are of legal age to make decisions as grown ups. If i caught them toking it up... I would probably just give them a lecture as a punishment. If I caught my kid drinking or smoking cigarettes though, that's hardcore grounding. I think that a parent should talk about cannabis to their kids... kinda like the sex talk. It can be wrong, and tell them all the negatives, but also explain that when they are an adult, it can be a beautiful thing, should they do it responsibly. This is just my point of view. Teach your kids to always wear a rubber, and always pass to the left.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 3:35pm
cookiemama Says:
Tue, 09/25/2012 - 4:49pm
S@GE_M@n88 Says:

I'm a stoner parent, but it never gets involved with my parenting. Maybe it's cause bud is a huge upper to me? But I still avoid doing it while he's around, I wait an hour after he falls asleep to go outside and do it.

Tue, 09/25/2012 - 11:35pm
pas5dabud Says:

thank you sir, i just had a very sweet trip :)

Wed, 09/26/2012 - 3:33am

My mom did, and my grandfather before did it as well. I am an adult now, and my mother waited until I was 18 and out of the house (though I started smoking long before that). So I say, it's fine! And also, I never knew my mom smoked until i started and could recognize the smell. Before I thought it was some wierd candle that she always lit then hid lol. But the point it, this way, you'll know if your kid starts smoking, because they would actually know what it smells like. And I say, if they smoke, and you do too, let them. You'd be a hypocrite if you didn't. Unless they're really young for it. like if they're not even in high school yet. And once you deem them old enough to smoke with you, go for it!

Sun, 09/30/2012 - 9:48pm

I don't have kids but I've always known I would still smoke when I have them. I think I would be more patient n kind as a stoner parent.

Tue, 06/25/2013 - 10:00pm

not all kids smoke like my brother was straight edge till he could legally drink while i started smoking at 12 ( now 18)