I said this to a friend of mine last night. I hadnt talked to him in awhile, he called me to ask to borrow my bong, I flat out said no. I told him I couldnt trust him with it. My friend is a confused person, even though he doesnt realize it, just like alot of the people in the world.

He acts "gangster" talks about rolling around tryin to "pick up bitches", making money with his "partner" in the "business" they run together. When he uses these terms he uses them not to describe what he is doing, rather trying to describe something he thinks he is, something he's trying to be.."gangster". He does the same when he smokes weed, trying to reinforce the idea of what hes trying to be and not being who he is.

At heart he is a kind hearted person, I know this as a fact. So when he acts gangster he looks like a complete fool and anybody and everybody can see this. But you see this is a good thing because there are people out there who act gangster and look completely the part, who live the life and have people on the outside believe it to be, and they believe it themselves.

It shows something real in my friend, when he looks a fool, it shows that hes not so far gone as to identify with the idea of what he thinks he has to be..but that he is still closer to being..to being who he actually is.
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So I say "I smoke weed in a Bob Marley kinda way", in his eyes, and his mind, I may be no different then him. He sees my goatee, the way I speak and the clothes I wear and it may seem to him, and anyone who sees me at first glance that I am "gangsterish". Those are just ideas that get in their way. They dont see me. They see their idea of me.

Im not really sure how to end this and it may seem a bit incoherent, im trying to get back into the habit of from writing from the heart. It could take some time or no time at all. I guess we'll see.

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Comments

 
Mon, 10/10/2011 - 1:48am
420ismoke Says:

So true, no one could have said it better.

 
 
Sat, 01/07/2012 - 12:32am
Kimberry Says:

Agreed. I should know, I've tried. :)

 
 
Tue, 01/10/2012 - 4:12am
GanjaKhan Says:

"A man who is not afraid is not aggressive, a man who has no sense of fear of any kind is really a free, a peaceful man. " - Jiddu Krishnamurti

^^^This Quote Makes Sense^^^

 
 
Tue, 01/10/2012 - 11:20am
SoClose Says:

I usually give people the wrong idea of me. Only those whom I trust really knows me. My greatest leverage. Though I try to avoid thinking that I know who I am yet, when in fact, nobody really knows who they are until they're already dead. By then, you can finally say, hey, that was my life, that was all I was about, that was me.

So easy to give someone the advice to just be themselves, but for some people that could actually take a lifetime to even have a clue what it means.

 
 
Mon, 10/10/2011 - 7:43am
TrollJizz Says:

Did you choose not to lend him your bong because of the way he acts or because he has a history of being irresponsible with fragile things? I always try to give people the benefit of the doubt, yeah it backfires sometimes but sometimes people rise to the challenge and are given a chance to prove themselves.. also writing from the heart, it's hard man.. especially when it's so easy to catch static on here, but people recognize consistency when it's raw, genuine, honest and good fucking shit. They will catch on. It might take a while but don't alter your thoughts or perspectives or ANYTHING for the sake of upvotes. You probably already know all this though. One love

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 2:16pm

true
u cant not trust him jus because of the way he looks or acts
if hes ur friend than no matter wat he looks like u should trust him, if u dont trust him than how can u even call him a friend
some of my best friends r "g", and im not sayin they act "g", they live it
and they are some of the realest and most trustworthy people i know
people are decieving with their appearance and some of the nicest lookin people are the first to stab u in the back

 
 
Tue, 10/11/2011 - 6:42pm
shuggahnuh Says:

I upvoted this for the title. nuff said.

 
 
Thu, 10/13/2011 - 10:03pm

Yo how you get yo pic in a Pokemon card?

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 2:00pm
Baken Says:
 
 
Sat, 11/19/2011 - 4:02pm
Smoke.this Says:
 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 11:00am
Highwalker Says:

They dont see me. They see their idea of me. <--------------this statement sums up alot of your highdea. I like it as well.

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 11:40am

It can be a product of environment thing too. For example I still dress quite "G" and sound kind of ghetto but that's just my comfort zone. I'm trying to shed it but at my core it's just who I am so when I can tell people are judging me based on that shit, I just go over the top with it to give them what they want. Then when they least expect it I switch gears and make em look fucking stupid. Don't make the mistake of thinking all "Gs" are un-enlightened wannabes, you just might get schooled by a fool in a flat brim.

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 12:13pm
 
 
Tue, 01/10/2012 - 9:13am
Jeep.man Says:

Straight up mane! You really don't know what is going on in someone else's mind, no matter how they dress, how they act, how they look, or any type of visual. I mean, think about it. With no offense to anybody with similar conditions, would you think Stephen Hawking was a fucking genius? Can't judge a book by its cover. Real ass quote folk.

 
 
Tue, 01/10/2012 - 10:42pm
bucketgirl Says:

I used to run/own a rap studio, and I always got a great laugh outta people who expected me to be someone else over the phone. Then they would sheepishly admit they thought I was black or a guy or both... Then they'd be all "how'd you learn how to do all this shit?" Well homie, first I got a 1590 on my SATs, then I went to a top 20 college, then I smoked more weed then usual, discovered turntables and "threw my education away" in order to come teach you how to make that "weird robot voice, u know the low one where they sound sooo hard yo." Point is, gangsters may suprise you. Some of us are just where we ended up, not ignorant or trying too hard. And if that makes no impression, try www.textsfrombennett.tumblr.com

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 11:54am

Good shit. But you know what will change him the most? Time. A bit cliche', but when you think about it (and especially with an example such as this), the only thing that's gonna beat the "self" out of him is time. Whether it takes certain events to happen (which is commonly the case) or it's just one day he sits down and decides to flip the switch right then and there, time is the one and only intangible that can fix very many things, including your "hood" friend. Not all things, but close to all. And I'm sure that once he comes to grip with himself, he's gonna be very happy-and satisfied-that those changes, whatever they may be, happened to/with him.
Or, depending on his age, it may just have to do with maturity. Which, with that said, fits right into the "time" aspect of this whole shpiel. And now that I think about it, I think that's the main problem with all thugs or gangsters. They aren't mature. You don't hear about me or you (and obviously, for all I/we know, you possibly could be that man slangin' coke and shit in the alleys lol) plotting to kill people and rob banks for no reason. But in all seriousness, I think the key to that is...most of those gangsters had the absence of a father figure (or mother figure, or both...but i think that, in terms of maturity, it can be presumed that the father has a bigger impact on that sector of personal growth and development). Without that, they don't have much to rely on in learning such significant life lessons, and that's essentially why many or all of them choose to live the self-disrespecting, sloppy-ass lives that they do.
And with that, we can even say that there are many adults (even ones as old as, let's say, 40...even 50 years old) who have yet to find full maturity in themselves. Yeah, it's OK to go out and get rowdy and party and shit once in a while, but...and here's the big ticket...I think that having kids is what will change all of that. They change life. They change it all. I could go on and on forever about that, but my knuckles hurt now so I'm gonna just cut it off here.
Ok, I'm done. Good luck and we hope for the best for this hoodly fella. Peaccccccce.

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 4:56pm
Smithhy Says:
 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 12:42pm
ThaBraze Says:

Not all gangstas are insecure. Only the ones that are acting. The ones that were raised that way and live around gang shit and kick it with Gs aren't insecure. "A real gangsta-ass nigga don't flex nuts because he knows he got them." - Scarface. And it's so true. People that always act tough are just trying to prove to themselves they're gangsta. And if you have to work to prove it to other people, you're a fake ass nigga. But if you don't start shit, and you just hang with the homies and the Gs and you're loyal to that turf, then you're a real gangsta. You don't have to be in a gang to be gangsta, and just because you're in a gang don't mean you're a gansta.

Southside nigga. Post up.

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 12:49pm
kushondeck Says:

just let him be him so what if he acts "gangster" or what
he still smokes weed what difference does it make?

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 2:29pm
TheGrouch Says:

well, i can't really say much because i don't know where you are from ( i'm assuming your from some suburb since acting "gangster" is out of the norm to you ) but around here it's not that out of place. i'm from Long Beach, CA. There is a lot of gangsters, skaters, punks, surfers etc. No one judges each other based on their lifestyle choices. i've been to some sick parties out here where a cholo, a skater and metal head were just hanging out and taking bong hits. i suggest you just let him do what he wants. everybody has to become their own man someday. and in your own words, you said even though he acts g, he's still a good guy. so stop acting like a dick and just be his "homie" hahahaha

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 10:09pm

Omg you're from Long Beach, this might be a stupid question but do you know anyone who knew Bradley Nowell

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 10:31pm
TheGrouch Says:

yeah, i used to live next door to a couple of the guys who started skunk records. they were always baked haha. i remember i came home from school and one of them was just sitting on his balcony talking to himself. i asked whats up and he just muttered "shrooms"

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 12:39am
TheGrouch Says:
 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 2:51pm

lending a bong is out of the question. a bowl, maybe. a bong? no dice. but honestly, who cares how old boy acts, just smoke up with him. maybe he looks at you and thinks "man this kid acts like an old hippy"

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 5:58pm
waters Says:

Real gangsta ass niggas don't run from shit
Cuz real gangsta ass niggas caint run fast

-damn it feels good to be a gangsta

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 7:26pm
ramaorama Says:
 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 10:03pm
bagels23 Says:

this explains my life with my brothers. your awesome

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 10:14pm
NotWyatt Says:

As far back as I can remember, I've always wanted to be a gangster.

 
 
Sun, 01/08/2012 - 10:38pm
TheGrouch Says:
 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 2:28pm
 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 2:47pm

lmfao. all i have to say. i guess ill go smoke now ill probably have alot to say after.

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 3:48pm
Toke4Truth Says:

This is some real shit. I feel you on this one, I smoke weed in a Bob Marley kind of way too.. I believe it enlightens me and makes me closer to knowing myself. It is sad to see someone do it just to try and be something they are not..

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 4:19pm
LemonSkunk Says:
 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 5:05pm

I feel you on the gangsta wannabes.

I'm from Baltimore, Maryland and there's a lot of "real" gangstas and there's also a lot of fake ones. I've been associated with both types. I prefer the real ones just because they are being who they are and not trying to "fit in" somewhere.

I guess most people go through phases in their youth. When I first started figuring out who I really was, I bounced around trying to find where I fit in best. Then I realized that I don't fit in with any particular clique or what have you because I'm an individual.

I'm very white, I have tats all over my arms and a longish beard so most people assume I'm in the metal scene or whatever. I realized that my love for music kind of defines me. It's such a huge part of culture. I love my metal, but being a huge fan of words, and lyricism, I discovered that I relate to hip hop even more.

So a lot of people see me and probably expect me to be like "ROCK ON, DUDE!" then I come at them with some rap influenced shit and it throws them off, I guess.

I don't really know where I'm going with this, but I thought I'd throw out my ideas on perception.

I wish more people realized that if you just be who you are a lot more people will accept you than if you try to be something you're not.

Anyway, I would never lend out a bong. That's crazy.

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 7:26pm

Right on brother. Be who you are, not what they want you to be.

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 7:24pm

(Listen to this while you read my comment)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1ROGOHNSEBs

My friends feel it's their appointed duty.
They keep trying to tell me all you want to do is use me!
But my answer, yeah, to all that use me stuff.
Is I want to spread the news,
that if it feels this good getting used,
Oh you just keep on using me, GanjaKhan.
Until you use me up.
Until you use me up.

My brother, sit me right down and he talked to me.
He told me that I ought not to let you just walk on me.
And I'm sure he meant well,
yeah but when our talk was through.
I said brother if you only knew you'd wish that you were in my shoes.
You just keep on using me, GanjaKhan.
Until you use me up.
Until you use me up.

Oh sometimes yeah it's true you really do abuse me, Ganjakhan.
You get in a crowd of high class people,
and then you act real rude to me!
But oh GanjaKhan, GanjaKhan, GanjaKhan, GanjaKhan!
When you love me I can't get enough!
I and I want to spread the news, that if it feels this good getting used.
Oh you just keep on using me, GanjaKhan.
Until you use me up.
Until you use me up.

Talking about you using me but it all depends on what you do.
It ain't too bad the way you're using me, GanjaKhan,
'Cause I sure am using you to do the things you do.
Ah ha to do the things you do...

 
 
Mon, 01/09/2012 - 8:19pm

well atleast there's one universal thing and that is that we all love getting fucked up

www.iwassofuckedup.com

 
 
Tue, 01/10/2012 - 5:19am

Is it weird that i feel he told this story to tell me he has a goatee?